Faith, Mental Health

Marriage Preparation Series: Step #1

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The whole point of this series is to give you ideas of things you can work on while in a season of waiting for your spouse. You could be dating. You could be 100% single. This series stems from things I’ve learned in my season of waiting.

First and foremost: work on healing wounds. Those wounds could come from childhood. They may be from previous relationships. They could come from abuse. They could come from neglect. But always, those wounds come from a place of pain and negativity.

To be the best you can be in a relationship, one must assess wounds and work on healing those wounds. The scars will still be there, but you won’t be bleeding all over your partner. Some wounds are deep. The process of healing these will not be easy and will not be comfortable. And, in my opinion, is best done with the help of a professional.

I cannot explain how much I believe EVERYONE can benefit from therapy…if you are willing to do the work and be vulnerable. I realize that not everyone has medical insurance. I realize there is a cost to therapy. I also realize…It. Is. Worth. Every. Penny. Finding a therapist you trust is key. You will be doing hard work. The therapist will be cheering you on and helping you untangle the thoughts and emotions in your head.

I had a person tell me once that she didn’t need therapy, because she didn’t have baggage. Darlin’, everyone has baggage. Every. Single. Person. The question isn’t whether you have baggage or not. The question is: Am I willing to do the hard work and be vulnerable? And I dare say, until we are willing to be honest with ourselves and our therapists, we cannot be vulnerable with a partner.

Some resources for you:

May God bring you Peace through this journey.


Welcome to 2020! (And a New Series!)

As the year is beginning, I would like to introduce to you a new series of posts that will happen in this new year. The topic is marriage. I get it. Marriage…from someone who isn’t married. Well, yes. I consider myself a bit experienced in the relationship department. I thought I would share what I’ve learned.

First and foremost, I have learned you must prepare for marriage, prior to discussing marriage. Even before you are in a relationship. Why? Because it gives you perspective on what you want and also what your need. And more importantly, what you can offer your future spouse. For the next month, I am focusing on marriage preparation and things we can do now, as singles, to be in a better position for our spouse.

Sit back, relax, grab a warm beverage and enjoy! The posts will come fresh on each Wednesday of the month. I hope I inspire and assist you in your journey!