You know that sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach? Oh, yes. You do. That feeling that tells you to run. Or to slow down. Or to listen to yourself. God put that feeling in you for a reason. It’s your barometer. Trust it.
As human beings, we need to know what we will and won’t tolerate. This is where our boundaries lie. And often, we don’t realize where they are until they have been violated. When the boundaries are violated, it leaves an icky feeling in our stomach and hearts.
Let me tell you a little story.
Several months ago, I tried dating. I was freshly out of a dysfunctional relationship. I was still reeling from all the mind games being played on a regular basis. So, I thought I’d try to stop the pain by meeting and hanging out with someone new.
On the surface, the dude seemed nice enough. But. Oh, the but. He started by invading my boundaries-even on the first date. And I let him for a little while. Mainly because I was hurting and lonely. And that, dear friends, is how we settle.
Shortly after sort of, kind of, not really dating this dude I found my guts. I put my foot down. Every time he would talk to me, I would want to get to know him better. He would either throw up a wall or he would just flat out be aloof. He would want me to give emotionally…but he wasn’t willing to do the same….so….I called it off.
Was there potential with him? Probably. Would I be settling? Definitely.
Girls, please don’t settle. You deserve God’s best. Just because we are lonely or sad or even scared…it just isn’t reason enough to settle.
Here I am at 40. Still trying to get the dating thing right. But…I. Will. No. Longer. Settle. For. Less. Than. The. Best. You don’t either.